Being a single mom is a juggling act. Every day presents a new set of challenges, whether it’s managing work, tending to my son’s needs, or trying to maintain a sense of normalcy in a world that often feels anything but. But despite the struggles, there are countless little life hacks I’ve picked up along the way that make the chaos a little more manageable. If you’re a single mom like me, I want to reassure you that you’re not alone. You’ve got this—and with a few smart strategies, you can thrive.
Time Management: Mastering the Clock
Time management is probably one of the most important skills I’ve learned as a single mom. My days are often filled to the brim with work, errands, chores, and, of course, spending quality time with my son. But finding ways to stay organized and use my time efficiently has been key to keeping everything afloat.
One thing that really works for me is meal planning. Every Sunday, I take a few minutes to plan out our meals for the week. This includes packing lunch for my son and making sure there’s something quick and healthy for me to grab during lunch breaks at work. By having meals prepped in advance, I don’t have to waste time stressing about what to cook each day. Plus, it saves me from the temptation of ordering takeout when I’m feeling burnt out.
I also swear by creating a to-do list the night before. Each evening, I jot down everything I need to accomplish the following day, from work deadlines to household chores. I use a simple app on my phone that helps me stay organized, but sometimes, writing it out old school on paper works just as well. Breaking tasks down into smaller, manageable chunks has made it feel less overwhelming.
Self-Care: You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup
As a mom, it’s easy to put everyone else’s needs before your own. But over time, I’ve learned that I need to prioritize self-care—because if I’m not taking care of myself, I’m not the best mom I can be. I used to feel guilty about taking time for myself, but I’ve realized that it’s necessary for my own well-being and my ability to be present for my son.
For me, self-care doesn’t have to be a full day at a spa (although that would be nice!). It’s the small things that help me recharge. One of my favorite self-care practices is waking up early before my son does. This quiet time allows me to enjoy a hot cup of coffee, read, or simply breathe before diving into the day’s chaos. It’s a little moment of peace that sets the tone for the rest of my day.
In the evenings, I also make sure to carve out time for a relaxing routine. After my son goes to bed, I take 20-30 minutes to unwind with a book, a bubble bath, or a podcast. This allows me to disconnect from the stress of the day and center myself before heading to bed.
Of course, exercise is another crucial part of my self-care routine. I’ve learned to make it work by incorporating it into our family time. We take walks together, dance around the living room, or head to the park for some active fun. It’s a win-win: I get my workout, and my son gets a chance to burn off some energy.
Overcoming Mom Guilt: Letting Go of Perfection
Mom guilt is real—and it can be crippling. I’ve felt guilty for missing a school event, for being too tired to play with my son after a long day at work, or for not spending enough time doing arts and crafts with him. But one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that I can’t do it all—and that’s okay.
It took me a while to realize that perfection isn’t the goal. My son doesn’t need me to be perfect; he just needs me to show up, love him, and do my best. And my best looks different every day. Some days, it’s all about making sure he’s fed, bathed, and has everything he needs to go to school. Other days, it’s about making time for a spontaneous dance party or snuggling up with a movie.
I’ve also learned to let go of the idea that I need to be everything to everyone. I can’t always be the supermom who has a spotless house, a gourmet meal on the table, and a smile on my face all the time. Instead of aiming for perfection, I focus on being present and enjoying the moments with my son, even if they’re imperfect. The mess can wait. What matters is the love we share.
Maintaining a Healthy Work-Life Balance: Finding Flexibility
Work-life balance is something I continue to work on. As a single mom, there’s no “off” button—I’m always in mom mode or work mode. However, I’ve discovered a few tricks to help me strike a healthier balance between the two.
First, I’ve learned to set boundaries. When I’m at work, I focus on work. When I’m with my son, I try my best to be present with him, even if it means putting my phone away. The boundaries I set help me feel more grounded and less pulled in multiple directions.
I also make use of any flexibility I can find in my schedule. If I need to adjust my work hours for a doctor’s appointment or a school event, I make it happen. Thankfully, many workplaces offer some level of flexibility these days, and it’s something I try to take full advantage of when necessary. I’ve also learned to delegate tasks at work and at home when possible. This might mean asking a friend to help with a carpool or having a cleaning service come once a month. Asking for help is not a weakness—it’s a smart way to take care of yourself.
Additionally, I’ve come to understand that saying “no” is not a bad thing. Sometimes, I have to turn down invitations or social commitments because I just need time to recharge or focus on my family. It’s hard to disappoint others, but I’ve realized that I can’t be everything to everyone, and that’s perfectly fine.
Empowering Conclusion: You Are Doing Your Best
To all the single moms out there—whether you’re struggling to keep up, feeling overwhelmed, or simply doing your best day by day—remember that you are doing an incredible job. It’s okay to not have everything figured out, and it’s okay to have tough days. The fact that you’re showing up and giving your all every day is something to be proud of.
I’ve learned that there will be days when everything falls apart, and that’s perfectly normal. The key is to keep moving forward, one step at a time. Take it easy on yourself, celebrate the little wins, and never forget that you’re doing an amazing job. Your child loves you, and they appreciate all you do—even if they can’t always express it. And most importantly, you are enough just as you are. You are doing your best, and that’s all that matters.
I’m Zara Michell
