A First-Person Story from a Working Mom in the USA
Every year, as the leaves turn and pumpkin spice fills the air, I feel both excitement and a touch of anxiety creep in. Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays—it’s cozy, full of good food, and reminds us to be grateful. But as a full-time working mom, it can also feel overwhelming. Between school pick-ups, work deadlines, and laundry that seems to multiply overnight, the thought of adding new Thanksgiving traditions used to sound like another task on an already overfilled plate.
But last year, something changed. My son, who had just turned four, asked me why we only celebrate Thanksgiving “for one day.” That little question got me thinking: what if Thanksgiving became more than just a rushed Thursday with a roasted turkey and tired small talk? What if we started building traditions—simple, meaningful ones—that could make this season special for our family and, more importantly, doable for me as a working mom?
So, here’s our story. The struggles, the small wins, and the Thanksgiving traditions we’ve started—ones that brought us closer without burning me out. If you’re looking to add something meaningful (and manageable) to your family’s holiday season this year, I hope this inspires you.
The Reality of Being a Working Mom During the Holidays
Let me be honest: the pressure is real. I work full-time, often from home, juggling meetings while microwaving chicken nuggets and praying my son doesn’t bust in during Zoom calls with a LEGO emergency. Come November, the Pinterest-perfect Thanksgiving tablescapes and Instagram-worthy pies flood my feed—and the mom guilt follows close behind.
For years, I’d try to recreate elaborate traditions, only to end up cranky, exhausted, and guilty for not enjoying “the moment.” What I’ve learned is that Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be picture-perfect to be meaningful. The best traditions are the ones that fit your family and your reality.
Time Management: Planning Ahead Without Losing Your Mind
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is this: the earlier you plan, the less stressed you’ll be.
This doesn’t mean I have a holiday binder or color-coded spreadsheet (though if that’s your thing, go for it!). What worked for me was creating a Thanksgiving Prep List—a simple list on my phone with reminders like:
- Grocery shopping (a week before)
- Finalizing the guest list (two weeks out)
- Prepping anything that can be frozen (like pie crusts or cranberry sauce)
- Setting the table the night before (yes, it feels silly, but it’s a game-changer!)
We also started a 30-minute family planning session every Sunday during November. My son gets to pick one “fun” Thanksgiving activity (like decorating placemats or watching a themed movie), and I make sure to write down what I need to prep for the week. My husband helps with errands, and I’ve learned that asking for help isn’t a weakness—it’s a survival skill.
New Thanksgiving Traditions (That Are Actually Manageable)
Here are a few traditions we started last year, and I plan to keep them going:
1. Gratitude Jar
We keep a mason jar on the dining table. Every evening in November, we each write one thing we’re thankful for on a small slip of paper. On Thanksgiving Day, we read them aloud. It’s simple, sweet, and doesn’t take more than five minutes a day.
2. Turkey Pancake Breakfast
Instead of stressing over the perfect dinner, we make turkey-shaped pancakes in the morning using chocolate chips, banana slices, and bacon “feathers.” My son lives for this.
3. Family Volunteer Day
We choose one weekend to donate canned goods to a local pantry or help with a neighborhood clean-up. It teaches gratitude through action, and I want my son to grow up understanding that Thanksgiving isn’t just about receiving, but giving too.
4. Memory Tablecloth
We bought a plain white cloth and use fabric markers to draw or write our favorite memory from the year. It becomes part of our table each Thanksgiving. Watching the drawings pile up year after year is something I truly look forward to.
Self-Care: You Deserve a Moment Too
I used to believe self-care during the holidays was selfish. Now, I believe it’s necessary. If I’m running on fumes, I’m not showing up as the mom—or person—I want to be.
So I made a rule: 30 minutes for me, every day. Sometimes it’s a walk alone with a podcast, a long shower with music blasting, or five chapters of a good book after bedtime. It’s not indulgent. It’s survival.
One night last Thanksgiving week, I shut the kitchen door, let the dishes sit, and made myself a hot cup of tea while listening to the quiet hum of my sleeping house. I cried a little—out of exhaustion, yes, but also gratitude. I was tired, but I was enough.
Overcoming Mom Guilt
Let’s talk about that nagging voice—the one that says we’re not doing enough. The truth is, every mom feels it, especially during the holidays. We compare. We doubt. We wonder if our kids will remember the chaos instead of the love.
But here’s what I remind myself: my son doesn’t see my burnt stuffing or cluttered kitchen. He sees the mom who danced with him in the living room, who let him help “stir” the mashed potatoes, who read Thanksgiving at the Tappletons’ for the fourth time in a row.
He sees love. And love is more than enough.
Work-Life Balance During the Holidays
Balancing work and family during the holidays is tough, but it’s possible. Here are a few things that helped me:
- Use PTO strategically: I block off the day before Thanksgiving and the Friday after, even if we’re staying home. Those days are for rest, slow mornings, and extra snuggles.
- Set boundaries: I let my team know ahead of time when I’ll be offline. I’ve also learned to say “no” to non-essential meetings during that week.
- Work with intention: I front-load tasks early in November so that Thanksgiving week feels lighter.
An Empowering Reminder for Fellow Moms
If you’re reading this, exhausted and wondering how you’ll pull it all off—I see you. You’re doing so much, and I promise you, it matters. Not the perfectly browned turkey or the Instagram centerpiece—but the love, the warmth, the effort. That’s what your family remembers.
Starting new Thanksgiving traditions doesn’t mean doing more. It means doing what feels right for your family and your reality. Sometimes, that’s a dance party in the kitchen while the cranberry sauce boils over. Sometimes it’s frozen pie and a movie marathon.
And that’s more than okay.
This year, I hope you give yourself permission to celebrate in a way that’s joyful and real. Start a tradition, even if it’s messy. Let the little moments be enough. And don’t forget to save a little space at the table—for grace, for laughter, and for yourself.
You’ve got this, Mama.
