Work and mom in the USA, I’ve learned that the phrase “work-from-home” can feel like a cruel joke some days. It sounds so idyllic—no commute, flexible hours, and the ability to be present for your kids while still crushing your career. But the reality? It’s more like a constant juggling act where you’re trying to keep all the balls in the air while secretly wondering if one of them is on fire.
When I first started working from home, I thought I had it all figured out. I’d wake up early, get a head start on emails, and then seamlessly transition into mom mode when the kids woke up. Spoiler alert: it didn’t work. At all. Instead, I found myself drowning in guilt, exhaustion, and a never-ending to-do list. But over time, I’ve learned to create a routine that works for me—not perfectly, but well enough to keep my sanity intact. Here’s how I did it, and how you can too.
Time Management: The Art of Prioritizing and Letting Go
Let’s start with the big one: time management. As moms, we’re already masters of multitasking, but working from home requires a different kind of strategy. The key is to prioritize ruthlessly and let go of the idea that everything has to be done right now.
One of the first lessons I learned was to set boundaries. Just because I’m home doesn’t mean I’m available 24/7. I started by creating a schedule that works for my family and my job. For me, that means waking up an hour before the kids to tackle my most important work tasks. That quiet, uninterrupted time is golden.
I also use time-blocking to structure my day. I divide my schedule into chunks for work, family time, and household tasks. For example, I might work from 8:30 AM to 12:00 PM, take a break to make lunch and play with my toddler, and then work again during nap time. In the evening, after the kids are in bed, I’ll catch up on any remaining work or take some time for myself.
But here’s the thing: no matter how well you plan, there will be days when everything falls apart. Your toddler will refuse to nap, your boss will schedule a last-minute meeting, and the dog will decide to bark at the mailman for an hour straight. On those days, I remind myself that it’s okay to adjust. Sometimes, that means working after the kids are in bed or letting the laundry sit for another day.
Self-Care: Because You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup
If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a working mom, it’s that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. When you’re juggling work and motherhood, it’s easy to put yourself last. But the truth is, you can’t take care of anyone else if you’re running on empty.
For me, self-care looks different every day. Sometimes it’s a 10-minute meditation session in the morning, and other times it’s a solo trip to Target just to wander the aisles in peace. I’ve also learned to embrace the power of saying no. If I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’ll decline extra projects at work or skip a social event to recharge.
One of the best pieces of advice I’ve received is to treat self-care like an appointment. Block it off on your calendar and treat it as non-negotiable. Whether it’s a workout, a bubble bath, or just a few minutes to read a book, make time for yourself. You deserve it.
Overcoming Guilt: The Silent Struggle of Working Moms
Guilt is the uninvited guest that shows up every time you try to balance work and motherhood. It’s that voice in your head that says you’re not doing enough, not being present enough, not succeeding enough. And let me tell you, it’s exhausting.
I used to feel guilty about everything. If I was working, I felt guilty for not spending time with my kids. If I was playing with my kids, I felt guilty for not working. It was a never-ending cycle that left me feeling like I was failing at both roles.
But over time, I’ve learned to reframe my thinking. Instead of focusing on what I’m not doing, I try to focus on what I am doing. I’m teaching my kids the value of hard work. I’m showing them that women can have careers and be great moms. And most importantly, I’m doing my best—and that’s enough.
One thing that’s helped me overcome guilt is setting aside dedicated “mom time” each day. During that time, I put my phone away, close my laptop, and focus entirely on my kids. Even if it’s just 30 minutes, it helps me feel more present and less torn between work and family.
Maintaining a Healthy Work-Life Balance: Tips That Actually Work
Work-life balance is the holy grail for working moms, but let’s be real: it’s more like a work-life juggle. The goal isn’t to achieve perfect balance every day but to find a rhythm that works for you. Here are some tips that have helped me:
- Create a Dedicated Workspace: Having a designated area for work helps me mentally separate “work mode” from “mom mode.” Even if it’s just a corner of the kitchen table, it makes a difference.
- Communicate with Your Employer: Be upfront with your boss about your needs as a working mom. Most employers are understanding and willing to accommodate flexible schedules.
- Involve Your Kids: When my toddler is home, I try to involve her in my work when possible. She loves “helping” me type on my laptop or sitting next to me with her own toy computer. It’s not always productive, but it’s a way to spend time together.
- Outsource When You Can: If your budget allows, consider outsourcing tasks like cleaning or grocery delivery. It’s not a luxury—it’s an investment in your sanity.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Some days, just getting through the day is a win. Celebrate those moments, whether it’s finishing a project at work or managing to get dinner on the table.
An Empowering Conclusion: You’re Doing Your Best
If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this article, it’s this: you’re doing your best, and that’s enough. Being a working mom is hard, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. You’re showing your kids that they can chase their dreams and have a family. You’re proving that women can be strong, capable, and compassionate all at once.
There will be days when you feel like you’re failing at everything. But those days don’t define you. What defines you is your resilience, your determination, and your love for your family. So give yourself grace, take it one day at a time, and remember that you’re not alone in this journey.
You’ve got this, mama. And if no one has told you today, I’m proud of you.
I’m Zara Michell
