There’s a quiet kind of magic that happens when I sit on the rug with my toddler, a book open between us, his little fingers eagerly flipping pages too fast for me to keep up. In those moments, the chaos of the day—the spilled juice, the endless emails, the rush of daycare drop-offs—fades away. We’re just there, together, in a world of hungry caterpillars and mischievous monkeys.
But I’ll be honest—it wasn’t always like this.
As a full-time working mom in the U.S., finding the time, energy, and patience to consistently read to my son felt almost impossible in the beginning. I carried so much guilt about it. Was I doing enough? Was I falling behind on what all the parenting blogs said I should be doing?
Now that we’ve found our rhythm, I want to share the real-life lessons I’ve learned—along with practical tips to help encourage a love for books in your toddler, without burning yourself out.
The Early Days: Juggling Work and Books
When my son was about 15 months old, I started noticing how much he loved flipping through books on his own. He couldn’t say much yet, but he’d babble excitedly at the pictures. That’s when it hit me: I had a small window to nurture this interest. But with work emails rolling in after dinner and laundry always waiting, I had no clue how to build reading into our routine.
I felt torn between wanting to be a Pinterest-perfect mom and just trying to survive the day.
That’s when I realized—it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Even five minutes of reading counts. And some nights, five minutes was all I had to give. But I gave it.
Time Management: Finding Moments That Work
If you’re a working mom like me, your schedule is probably packed. But reading doesn’t have to mean a long sit-down session with 20 books. Here’s how I worked reading into our lives without feeling like I had to “add” one more thing to my already overflowing plate:
- Morning Snuggles: Instead of turning on the TV while we got ready, I started keeping a small stack of board books in the kitchen. While my coffee brewed, we’d read one short book at the breakfast table.
- Car Time (Audiobooks): On the way to daycare, I’d play toddler-friendly audiobooks or rhyming songs based on children’s books. Even though he couldn’t see the pictures, he was still absorbing rhythm, language, and story.
- Bedtime Routine: After bath and PJs, we have a “two-book” rule. I let him choose two books each night. This little bit of choice helps him feel in control—and makes reading feel special.
- Waiting Time: Whether we’re at the doctor’s office or in a long checkout line, I keep mini books in my diaper bag. These five-minute windows add up.
Self-Care: Let Go of the Perfection Trap
I had to learn this the hard way: You can’t pour from an empty cup. There were nights I was so drained that the idea of reading even one more “Goodnight Moon” made me want to cry. And you know what? Some nights, we skipped it—and that’s okay.
What I’ve learned is that the goal isn’t perfection. The goal is connection.
Here’s what helped me:
- Rotate the books: I started rotating a few books weekly so I wouldn’t get bored. Fresh books kept both of us interested.
- Pick books you enjoy too: Don’t be afraid to introduce books you actually like. There are plenty of toddler books with humor and beautiful art that make it fun for parents too.
- Skip the guilt: If you’re too tired one night, snuggle and chat about your day instead. Language exposure comes in many forms.
Overcoming Mom Guilt: You’re Doing Enough
That persistent mom guilt—that nagging feeling that no matter what you do, it’s not enough—was the hardest part for me. Especially when I’d scroll through social media and see moms doing elaborate storytime setups with themed snacks and costumes.
Let me tell you something I wish I’d believed sooner: You don’t need all the bells and whistles. What your child needs is you.
The way my son giggles when I use a silly voice for the characters… that’s what he remembers. Not whether we read five books or just one.
One night, after a particularly long workday, I started to read a story and accidentally fell asleep mid-sentence. I woke up to my son patting my cheek and whispering, “More book, Mama.” I smiled through the exhaustion, and in that moment, I knew—I was enough.
Tips to Encourage a Love for Books
Here are a few things that worked wonders for us:
1. Let Them Choose the Book
Giving toddlers the freedom to pick a book makes them feel empowered. Even if it’s the same book for the tenth time that week—lean into it. Repetition builds confidence and vocabulary.
2. Make Reading Interactive
Ask questions like, “What do you think happens next?” or “Can you find the bunny?” This keeps them engaged and turns reading into a game.
3. Celebrate Small Milestones
When my son “read” along with me for the first time, repeating a line he had memorized, I practically threw a party. Celebrate these moments. They matter.
4. Use Props or Stuffed Animals
Sometimes I’ll read a story while he holds a stuffed animal from the book. It makes the story come alive.
5. Create a Cozy Reading Space
We made a little reading corner with pillows and a soft rug. Nothing fancy, but it’s our spot. When he sits there on his own, flipping through a book, my heart swells.
Balancing It All Without Losing Yourself
It’s easy to lose yourself in the demands of motherhood and career. There were months where I didn’t read a single book for me. But carving out even a few minutes for my own reading helped me recharge.
Now, my son sees me reading too—on the couch, before bed, during lunch breaks. Modeling this behavior shows him that reading isn’t just a “kid thing”—it’s something we all can love.
And on weekends, we sometimes have “reading hour,” where we both pick a book and sit quietly. Okay, it usually only lasts 15 minutes—but it’s glorious.
Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This, Mama
If you’ve made it this far, let me wrap my arms around you in a virtual hug. Being a working mom is a daily balancing act, and there’s no one right way to do this. Some days will be messy. Some nights you’ll skip the books. And that’s okay.
What matters most is the love you’re pouring into your child—the giggles, the cuddles, the silly voices during storytime.
Encouraging a love for books doesn’t require perfection. It just requires presence. And trust me: your presence is more than enough.
So take a deep breath, grab a book (even if it’s the same one you read yesterday), and enjoy those few magical minutes.
Because one day, they’ll be reading on their own—and you’ll miss the way they used to crawl into your lap, book in hand, eyes wide with wonder.
You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough.
